I spend a lot of time on the Internet and make myself available to chat with submissives and slaves who are new to the lifestyle or having problems and have questions about the lifestyle.

THe biggest question I get is "i can't seem to please my MASTER". In at least 8 out of 10 cases it always goes back to an issue of TRUST. I do not know what has happened since D/s has hit the Internet and is becomming a bit more mainstream. Whatever the reason it seems that the slaves and submissives are starting out their relationships with a lie, which eventually catcHes up to them, either because they feel guilty and tell on themselves or just forget or mis-speak and get caught in the lie.

As a Master I can say that the BIGGEST complication of the Master/slave relationship is when the Master is lied to. He loses all trust in His slave. This causes him not to lose His love for her, but to look at her as a tavern slave instead of His most prosed possession.

For a slave the loss of her Masters attentions, or at least any type of tender touch is something that they don't understand and is hard for them to bear. As an example: A slave paged me and begged me to answer a few questions. her background was that she entered the lifestyle at age 14 and was married to her Master til her late 20's at which time her Master died. (you can read her full story from the main menu) she had been out of the lifestyle for about 10 years and now was seeking a new Master. she had found one but her question to me was, "Why can't I please my Master? What has changed over the years?". I said to please explain it in more detail. she tells me of meeting her new Master on-line and the wonderful relationship they had.

I asked for more specific details. she said "I asked my Master to open His arms to me and hold me and He said NO!" I said was her situation with him ever different. she said "Oh Yes" He was very different in the past, He always took me into His arms." I said that just doesn't sound right, was there an event or something that happened when He stopped . she said "yes, I told him a little lie in the beginning and it started when He found out.".

I said I completely understood now and that her Master was either withdrawing His attentions because He felt she was not worthy of them or because He had lost all trust in her. she wanted to know the solution to gain His attention back. I had to really think about that because I have had a slave whom I cared deeply for lie to me once and then justify it by saying "But if i had told you the truth W/we would never have met."

After that I have always wondered if everything was a lie just so I would not release her and it is still a problem today. I don't know that I can ever resolve it in my mind that she lied and that was the reason. I assume that only time will tell. Trust takes years to build up, but it can be lost in seconds.

What can a slave do? TELL YOU MASTER THE TRUTH, no matter what you expect the results or the anger to be. A Master can correct/forgive almost anything but a lie. Unless you wish to be treated as an uncollared tavern slave the rest of your time together.

If you have lied to your Master, the only way possible (and it't not always possible) to regain His trust is to make a 3 fold effort to prove your devotion to him. You must make him feel that He is the center of your universe and that you have dedicated your life to serving him. Once He feels this and knows it in His Heart He may wipe your slate clean and slowly allow His trust in you to rebuild.

Expect to be punished for asking for His attention but assume the nadu position and beg. It is your only hope of forgiveness and may eventually work.

----- Master Joe