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Section 2: Assumptions
It is assumed
throughout this document that the "whip" under
consideration is a multi-tailed cat. The use of
single-tailed whips requires advanced study, and is
beyond the scope of this document.
It is assumed that
the area one will primarily be flogging is the back.
Intense flogging of other parts of the body can
involve additional safety concerns and training, and
is beyond the scope of this document.
It is also assumed
that you have some familiarity with the theory and
practice of modern SM. If you have no clue WHY a
person would wish to be flogged, are not sure if SM is
abuse, or are not aware that SM should be consensual,
we suggest you examine a book such as _Sensuous Magic_
by Pat Califia. Such a discussion is beyond the socpe
of this document.
Section 3: General
Safety
Areas of the body
such as joints, or places where internal organs are
not protected by bones, should never be struck with
anything harder than a caressing, brushing stroke.
Also, avoid heavily striking areas over bones that
aren't protected by layers of tissue, such as the
collarbone and the anklebones. Don't strike the
bottom's face when the bottom's eyes are open and
unprotected, ever.
When flogging the
back heavily, avoid the lower back below the ribcage,
where the kidneys are exposed. Also, avoid striking
the spine heavily and directly. Avoid heavily striking
the base of the neck, or anything above it.
Especially if the
bottom is restrained, it is good practice to have a "safeword",
which, when used, will cause the Top to honor any
request that follows it (including that play be
terminated). If the bottom has a safeword, the Top
should not hesitate to issue direct instructions to
the bottom (i.e. Stand still!), when such instructions
will benefit the flogging or the scene in general.
Especially if you
are playing in public, concern may be necessary if any
skin breaks on the bottom (perhaps caused by a pimple
bursting). A conservative approach in such a situation
would be to put on latex gloves, spray the area with a
rubbing alcohol solution, wipe it with a sterile
cloth, and then cover the wound with MicroFoam (see a
medical shop for that product). Flogging may be done
over MicroFoam, so the scene may then continue.
If blood or other
body fluids come into contact with your flogger, you
should clean the flogger before using it on anyone
else (or perhaps just reserve it from then on for that
bottom, if it cannot be cleaned). One may clean
floggers by first scrubbing off (with a microbicidal
soap) any obviously tainted spots, brushing or
spraying the tails with something that will kill HIV
and other bloodborne diseases but which will not harm
or discolor the whip, and finally letting it sit for
at least 10 minutes to dry. You may then have to treat
leather floggers so they don't dry or crack (depending
on the cleaning materials you chose). As it can be
difficult to clean and treat suede without it becoming
damaged, you may wish to avoid breaking skin with
suede floggers. Also note that Hepatitis B is much
harder to kill than other viruses, and you should
consider getting the vaccination if you plan on
receiving many heavy floggings during your life.
Please note that there are many opinions and ideas in
the SM community on how to clean and disinfect
floggers, and that the best procedure may depend on
the type of whip in question; you may wish to ask
about such procedures at the time you purchase your
whip.
When you're
practicing, it's helpful to put pillows or towels over
areas that are unsafe to strike.
Section 4: Comfort
Although A-frame
standing racks are valuable for the bottom to lean
against, and be restrained to, it is perfectly fine
and comfortable for the bottom to simply lean, with
both hands, against a wall.
It is often valuable
to discuss before beginning a scene what the bottom is
looking for out of the scene. Is he or she interested
in a masochistic experience? In this case, flogging
firmly, with little or no warm-up, may be appropriate.
Is he or she interested in a sensual experience? In
this case, beginning lightly and working to more
intense sensation as endorphin levels rise may be
appropriate. Is he or she interested in a spiritual
experience? In this case, some ceremonial actions such
as lighting candles or burning incense may be
appropriate, along with slow build-up culminating in
strong strokes separated by synchronized breathing.
When one is just
learning flogging, or if one wishes "thud" rather than
"sting" at all costs, it may be helpful for the bottom
to wear a sweatshirt during the flogging. Finally, it
can greatly assist the experience of the bottom if he
or she is encouraged to (and given the space to) keep
his or her breathing show and deep during the course
of the flogging.
Especially when the
flogging is beginning, it's important that the room
being used is warm enough, as the bare back and front
of a bottom can become cool quite quickly. This is not
generally the sensation either of you would desire.
Section 5: Stance
The best stance for
flogging is often a lunging stance (such as that
frequently assumed in fencing). The Top's legs are
separated with the front of the Top's body pointing to
one side. The foot nearer to the bottom points toward
the bottom, and the rear foot points to the side.
The knees should be
slightly bent, to facilitate easily crouching lower
(to ease lower strikes) and side-to-side motion (to
ease the use of different angles of impact).
The ideal stance is
a flexible one, as the Top may want to move quickly
from one position to another as the different strokes
require. Good floggings often remind one of a dance.
Section 6: Wrapping
Wrapping is the
uncomfortable effect caused by the tails of the
flogger landing too high, and wrapping over the
shoulder. This can be avoided when it happens by
stepping back (so the tails CANNOT reach that far)
and/or lowering one's stance into a deeper crouch.
Section 7: Grip
For most floggers
(single-tail whips excepted), it is best to grip the
whip near the base of the handle, away from the tails.
This will facilitate the use of leverage to focus
impact. It is also valuable to grip the flogger
firmly. This will facilitate firm, confident strokes,
with less lost energy.
Section 8: Build-Up and
Cool-Down
Unless one's bottom
is seeking a purely masochistic experience, it is
generally best to begin the flogging slowly and
lightly, progressing to greater intensities as time
goes on. Let it begin ever-so caressingly, and build
as endorphin levels rise to stronger strokes. Most
skin exhibits redness when it is warmed up to the
point where harder strokes may be done. It generally
takes 15-20 minutes or more for endorphin levels in
the body to increase.
For many people, an
important part of build-up is the smell of leather;
for such a person, at various points before and during
the scene you may hold the whip near the bottom's face
and allow him or her to smell and/or kiss it. For
other people, an important part of build-up is the act
of being put in restraints; if you are putting wrist
restraints on such a person (perhaps to attach them to
an A-frame rack before a flogging), do so very slowly.
It can be helpful
for warm-up to have the whip come into contact LIGHTLY
with all parts of the body; this is more psychological
than anything else. Just draping the tails on the
front of the body and swooshing them back and forth as
you go down and over the fronts of the legs can help
the whole body feel more included before beginning
serious work on the back.
Many scenes have a
point which is a peak (at which the bottom often
either safewords, or comes very close to safewording).
One may then enter a cool-down phase for the flogging
(gradually lowering intensities). Cool-down may be
omitted, depending on the preferences of the bottom
and what sort of aftercare is being planned.
Section 9: Varying
Sensations
Most people can take
a longer and more intense flogging (and enjoy it more)
if sensations are varied during the course of it.
Periods of "thuddy" sensation may be alternated with
periods of "stingy" sensation. It is VERY helpful to
occasionally stop, and perhaps run one's fingers or a
fur mitten gently over the bottom's back; after this
interlude, one may build again to stronger strokes,
often reaching a level which would have caused a
safeword before the interlude.
It is very good
practice to not always strike in the same place every
time; this is annoying to many people, and is not
considered desirable (unless one is TRYING to be
annoying, and trying to end the scene with a safeword).
A pattern of strokes will be discussed which
automatically accomplishes this. But, at the very
least, alternating sides of the back for strokes is
good practice.
For many bottoms,
whatever sensations may be varied, one aspect of the
flogging must remain relatively constant; the pace of
the strokes. Strokes that are rhythmic (and hence
predictable) cause a hypnotic trance for many people.
Strokes that are out of rhythm are jarring and can
cause fear. This may be the effect desired, but a Top
should be aware that this is the effect which
out-of-rhythm strokes will have.
It's often helpful
to switch floggers (perhaps going from a heavy-weight
cat to a scourge, and back again) during the course of
session, as desired. Working from lighter-weight
floggers to heavier ones is also helpful.
If the bottom's back
is becoming too hot, it is helpful to have on hand a
water-spray bottle, to cool him or her down during a
break. Another option to accomplish the same purpose
is to have on a hand a large sheet of leather or
cloth, and to fan the bottom's back with it. If the
sheet in question is a sheet of leather, such as
deerskin, it may also be used to strike the back with
(perhaps folded, as well) to achieve a very thuddy
sensation. When the scene is over, it can be very
comforting to the bottom to drape this sheet over his
or her back, and perhaps hug him or her through it.
Section 10: The Use of
Sexual Stimulation
Many people find
floggings much more pleasurable if they are sexually
aroused, or become so during the course of the
flogging. If for no other reason, sexual arousal can
stimulate the release of the same hormones that are
released as the body experiences a flogging, thus
facilitating the body's natural response.
During interludes
between heavy strokes, one may manually stimulate the
genitals with one's hand (possibly gloved for safety).
One may also, with a heavy flogger, lightly stroke
upwards between the legs, causing the tails to brush
the entire genital area (for women) or the erogenous
zones to the rear of the testicles (for men). Some
women can experience orgasm through such flogger
strokes, but this is somewhat rare.
If an A-frame rack
is being used, one option many people choose is to
have another person (a "spotter") stand inside the
rack and sexually stimulate the bottom as he or she is
being flogged. For many people, this works wonders.
Other people,
however, may prefer no genital contact during a
flogging; it is a matter of personal preference.
Section 11: Tips on
Flogging Technique
Move into a deeper
crouch, or side-to-side, as necessary. Stances should
not be rigid.
Simplify the motion
of the stroke as much as possible, and use the weight
of momentum and the lever of the arm/flogger
combination as much as possible. Let the whip do the
work! One may also lean forwards and backwards during
the course of a stroke to put one's weight into the
stroke.
One may slightly
twist the hand halfway through the stroke, if the
tails of the whip tend to splay out too much on
impact.
The best way to
practice, and focus one's attention, is to see on the
bottom the point you wish to strike, and then try to
hit that spot. One may practice in a similar way on
walls, pillows, and light switches.
For a lighter
stroke, one may slow the velocity of the whip as it
reaches the top of its arc, and let the tails gently
fall on the bottom.
Generally, the more
directly the tips strike the bottom, the thuddier the
sensation is. When the tips of the flogger tails brush
against the bottom, and do so quickly, the sensation
is often stingier.
The tips of the
flogger, as they strike, convey the greatest force of
the stroke. Thus, when one is flogging heavily, it is
helpful to strike in such a way that the tips land
first; this will also help one avoid "wrapping", which
occurs when the middle of the tails strikes a good
area, but the tips (which land later) wrap around to
strike over the
shoulders or around the torso. This is generally
considered bad form.
It is difficult to
judge what strokes and whips to use on a bottom at a
particular time, if one does not know what those
strokes feel like. Thus, it is important as a Top to
experience each of the sensations which you have in
your repertoire. Consider bottoming regularly in order
to become a better Top.
Section 12: Different
Types of Strokes
Omitted from
discussion here are specialty strokes such as
double-flogger (a technique borrowed from Kendo),
snapping, two-handed, and side strokes.
One basic stroke is
the overhand stroke. It consists of striking overhand,
with the palm towards the bottom. One may use the
second knuckle of the first finger as a "sight" for
follow through.
Another basic stroke
is the backhand stroke. It consists of striking
overhand, with the palm towards you. Again, one may
use the second knuckle of the first finger as a
"sight" for follow through. The backhand stroke feels
the same to the bottom as the overhand stroke, but the
overhand stroke and the backhand stroke may be put
together to form a continuous "figure 8" pattern,
which is very useful.
A final basic stroke
is the punching stroke, which may be either overhand
or backhand, but which includes flipping the wrist to
provide more of a sensation of the tails going
straight into their target, rather than striking them
obliquely. This is commonly perceived as "thuddier"
than other strokes, and is valuable for providing a
different sensation, as well as allowing strokes in
body areas (especially lower ones) that might
otherwise be difficult to strike. It is often easier
to learn the punching stroke if you use your
non-flogging hand on your shoulder as a guide for the
whip tails as they begin their motion.
Another type of
stroke which is sometimes used is one where the whip
is held loosely (perhaps by the loop at the end) and
twirled in a great circle. The continuous twirling can
be brought near the bottom's back, so the tails upon
each revolution either come into contact with the
back, or come close enough to it to move air in the
general area. This can provide continuous sensation.
I suppose that the
act of lightly draping the tails of the whip over the
bottom's back, and gently caressing the back with
them, could count as a type of stroke. In any case, it
is very valuable and adds to the sensuality of the
scene.
One principle that
applies to ANY sort of flogging: every bottom is a
little different, and has different likes, dislikes,
and preferences. Some of these may be learned through
pre-scene negotiation, but others will be discovered
during the course of play. For this reason, no two
floggings are ever identical; the best play is
tailored to the people involved.
Section 13: A Useful
Stroke Pattern
It is helpful for
flogging purposes to think of the back as being
divided into four sections: the top half of the
ribcage left of the spine, the top half of the ribcage
right of the spine, the bottom half of the ribcage
left of the spine, and the bottom half of the ribcage
right of the spine.
Thus, consider the
following view of the back:
***
* *
***
Left ***************** Right
* 1 2 | 3 4 *
* | *
* ______|_______*
* 5 6 | 7 8 *
* | *
* | *
*****************
Stroke Pattern, for a
Right-Handed Top
Stroke #1: Backhand,
stroke direction diagonal (from the top to down, and
from the left to right)
Stroke #2: Overhand,
stroke direction diagonal (from the top to down, and
from the right to left)
Stroke #3: Backhand,
stroke direction diagonal (from the top to down, and
from the left to right)
Stroke #4: Overhand,
stroke direction diagonal (from the top to down, and
from the right to left)
Stroke #5: Backhand,
stroke direction diagonal (from the top to down, and
from the left to right)
Stroke #6: Overhand
Punching
Stroke #7: Backhand
Punching
Stroke #8: Overhand,
stroke direction diagonal (from the top to down, and
from the right to left)
Stroke pairs 1/2 and
3/4 especially may be done in a figure-8 pattern. With
practice, stroke pairs 5/6 and 7/8 will have a
figure-8 feel to them as well.
Section 14: Music
Most people find
that floggings are enhanced by the presence of good
music. Currently popular titles include:
Peter Gabriel,
"Passion"
Enigma, "Enigma II"
Tangerine Dream, "Canyon Dreams"
Andreas Vollenweider, "Down to the Moon"
Be careful that the
music is not too loud to hear the bottom's safeword,
if a verbal safeword is being used. One of the joys of
SM for many people is hearing the cries, moans, and
verbal feedback from the bottom; this is all lost if
the volume is too high. Unfortunately, this difficulty
often happens at many so-called "fetish nights" in
bars. Most people find that it is much easier to set
up a pleasant environment for SM at someone's
residence or at dedicated SM community space.
Section 15: To Learn
More
This document has
covered only the basics. As is the case with many
activities in life, the best way to learn is to
observe and learn from someone who is highly skilled.
Classes on SM technique, when available, can also be a
terrific way to improve one's skills.
Section 16: Credits
This document is a
"snapshot in time" of everything its author knew about
flogging at the time it was written. Very few if any
if the ideas are original, and most are common
knowledge in the contemporary SM scene. Same of them
came from reading books on SM technique, others came
from personal conversations with and observations of
skilled Tops, and even more came from workshops in SM
technique that were attended at Living in Leather X
and through SKIN (Seattle).
Section 17: On-Line
Resources
Usenet:
alt.sex.bondage (newsgroup and FAQ)
WWW: The Society for Human Sexuality
http://www.sexuality.org/
BBS: The English Palace: (908) 739-1755, or telnet to
palace.com
Section 18: Classes
Seattle: SKIN (206)
368-0384
San Francisco: QSM (415) 550-7776
San Francisco: Janus (415) 985-7117
New York: TES (212) 388-7022
Portland: RCDC (503) 650-7052
There are many, many
more organizations that put on classes in SM and kink
sexualities. Search the WWW on the internet, or ask on
alt.sex.bondage to learn about a group in your area.
Section 19: Supplies
Currently, the
world's finest single-tail and multi-tail whips are
being made by Joe Wheeler (1-312-835-3468). Mr.
Wheeler was at one time a student of David Morgan, but
unlike David Morgan Joe Wheeler now interacts directly
with the SM community, and so can make whips to suit
community needs.
However, one cannot
escape paying for quality. If you wish a more
economical alternative, check your local resources and
watch for local sales of used merchandise. Another
option is to make your own whips: Lady Green's book _Kinkycrafts
101_ details this process, as does John Warren's book
_The Loving Dominant_.
Section 20: Selected SM
Bibliography
COMMENTS
If no shop in your
area carries such books, keep in mind that most
bookstores in the country can put any book currently
in print on special order, and that you may personally
order almost any book directly from its publisher
regardless of your location in the US. Consult a
"Books in Print" reference for more information. Also,
you can order most of the books mentioned below from a
specialty mail-order book shop, such as Circlet Press:
Circlet Press, Inc.
1770 Massachusetts Ave. #278
Cambridge, MA 02140
Enclosed a
self-addressed, stamped envelope when requesting their
catalog.
You can also browse
Circlet Press's offerings through their WWW site at
http://www.apocalypse.org/circlet/home.html
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