Presented at BR99 by
Mistress G and Alan Reprinted with their permission.
Copyright 1999, Mistress G and Alan
Why incorporate
anal play into D/S scenes?
It feels
good; the area is sensitive and erotic, interconnected to
sexual organs
Produces a
feeling of vulnerability and of penetration and power
exchange
Creates a
special sense of intimacy; increases options for both top
and bottom
It is naughty
and forbidden
Allows access
to the prostate in males
Things to know
before starting anal play
Understand
anal area: Start slow, pain is not a part of anal play
Communication: Discuss inhibitions, limits, health issues,
prior experience
Disease
protection and cleanliness, lubrication and gradual dilation
Safe, soft
and rounded toys, different toys lead to different
experiences
Plan scenes
and games that incorporate anal exploration
Understanding
the anal area
The anus is 1
1/2" long and opens into a larger area called the rectum.
The rectum ends and turns abruptly about 8" from the
outside.
The anus is
the most sensitive part. The rectum has much less
sensation. The anus is sensitive to motion and dilation.
The rectum is sensitive to pressure and expansion.
There is an
external sphincter and a tighter internal sphincter
The muscles
of the anus connect to muscles around the rest of the
pelvis. Anus is connected to other pelvic nerves - skin and
inside are exceptionally well innervated
The
anal/rectal lining is easily abraded. Also rapidly absorbs
water, etc.
The prostate
is located just inside the internal sphincter towards the
belly
Prostate
hardens, pulsates and contracts right before ejaculation
The rectum
shares a common wall with the vagina
Pain or
bleeding are red flags in this area. Stop, reassess, and go
slower next time. Seek medical attention if pain or
bleeding persists.
Communication
and Setting the stage for a good experience
Anal play is
not usually an entire scene, but is incorporated into a
scene. Examples: Nurse or doctor/patient exam, adult baby
scenes, rape fantasy, feminization, orgasm control.
Acknowledge
natural issues of anal play; feces, gas, accidents, loss of
control
Discuss
limits of size of toys, thrusting vs. penetration, pre-play
enema or enema as part of the scene. Discuss the fantasy
and how it relates to the technical aspects of play and what
works into the scene
Generous use
of lube; tissues are fragile and have little natural
lubrication.
Do not share lube, especially lube in jars - bacteria and
viruses abound.
Water based lubes (KY, astroglide, etc.) can be drying. The
colon absorbs water rapidly. You need to continuously
reapply these.
Oil based lube (Vaseline, Crisco, etc) coat the walls better
and do not dry. May keep HIV alive, dissolve latex condoms.
Options: Use polyurethane condoms for toy protection and do
not share anal toys.
Sterilize toys if shared, do not rely on condoms for
protection.
Use gloves -
latex is smoother than vinyl, change gloves frequently if
using oil based lube - risk of disease transmission through
cuts in finger.
Avoid anal to
vagina contact to prevent vaginal and bladder infection
Dilation -
start with a finger. It is erotic and intimate and allows
assessment of sensitivity of tissues. Dilate slowly with
several toys and give bottom time to adjust. Avoid spasm,
remove and insert several times if needed.
Toys and
techniques
The finger is
the best toy. Aim towards the navel. Enter slowly,
explore, thrust, probe and massage. Add more fingers slowly
if desired and dilate. Lots of verbal teasing is fun.
Prostate stimulation in men.
Dildoes:
Many different sizes and shapes. Use smooth, rounded
objects, soft if possible. Do not force in, slide in and
increase size gradually. Try to use toys that have a flared
end. Do not lose toy inside and do not try to penetrate
more than 7-8". Avoid toys with wires inside.
Strap-on
dildoes: Excellent for male submissives. Make sure angle
is comfortable for both.
Butt plugs:
Many sizes, can be retained (water based lube can dry with
long plugging). Creates both dilation experience and
fullness.
Vibrators:
Dildoes, butt plugs and eggs. Vibrations pass to prostate,
vagina, and pelvis. Can be felt by partner. May help
sphincter to relax.
Other
objects: Avoid sharp, brittle, toxic materials or objects
which can be trapped inside.
Enemas: Use
for aesthetics, pleasure or punishment. Creates strong
fullness feeling, urgency and surrender of control. Plain,
soapsuds, wine. 2 quart is average, larger is possible with
experience. Suppositories before increase pressure. Aim
for warm, not hot. Smaller enemas can be retained longer.
Watch for electrolyte depletion if using multiple enemas.
Do not use excessive bag height. Use straight tips,
retention tips or inflatable tip. Risk of accident,
especially in bondage. Leave room for abdominal expansion.
Enema scenes take time.
Anal Beads:
Interesting sensation when withdrawn slowly, especially with
orgasm.
Ice - Very
intense, yet soothing. Do not use directly from freezer.
Use small, rounded pieces
Anal
intercourse: Use a condom, go slow, use comfortable
position - sling is great
Rimming
(oral/anal): Can be done to top or bottom, same sensation
with different meanings
Electrical:
Pes and Tens. Start at low powers, gives a pulsing almost
thrusting sensation. Tie in firmly. Try to match pulsing
rate to bottom's rhythm. Muscles can fatigue.
Fisting:
Learn from someone with experience - take time to get used
to larger objects.
Play examples
Bondage and
orgasm control: Monitor the prostate contraction with
finger and stop stimulating at edge of orgasm and repeat
multiple times. Add punishment and tasks
Hard spanking
before anal intercourse or strap-on until begging for
penetration
Cross-dressing and finish with role reversal and a strap-on
dildo
Bondage and
anal intercourse with vaginal vibrator
Insert a
vibrating egg or butt plug, then have vaginal intercourse.
Works with vibrator in male or female and transmits
sensations to partner. Enhanced by bondage.
Vibrators in
both vagina and anus and immobilizing bondage and gag
Leave
vibrator inside rectum and go out to dinner, etc. Buzz
bottom repeatedly.
Bottom needs
to retain enema for specified time (increase difficulty with
soap or suppositories) to reach orgasm. Punishment if
released early, then repeat enema.
Detailed,
lengthy pelvic medical exam with various devices inserted -
enemas too.
References
Anal Pleasure
and Health by Jack Morin
The Ultimate
Guide to Anal Sex for Women by Tristin Taormino
